Keyboard warriors and internet trolls are not just teenagers or bitter old ladies with nothing better to do with their time.
They are out there and they are amongst our motherhood.
In fact instead of bringing us closer, social media seems determine to categorise and isolate us.
I will say though I have had nothing but an outpouring of love and unity on this blog and on my facebook page and I want to thank each and every one of you for that.
It’s so easy to judge.
It’s so easy, with the stroke of a few keys, to hurt someone else.
It’s so easy to let your differing opinion cloud your judgement on what is, and what is not appropriate to say to someone.
It’s easy to think that some of these bigger sites court the controversy, and to be honest some do, but I have beautiful, honest friends online with massive followings who are mothers like you and me; who sit alone, behind these keyboards, putting their knowledge out there (mostly) for free, in their efforts to change the world.
I know for a fact that cruel words hurt them.
It’s not water off a ducks back, it is an attack and they take it personally.
I wonder what is behind the need of these other mothers to write these nasty comments and if they go away and think about it later. Do they feel shame or vilification that they have tried to take another Mother down a peg?
A very very popular Mother’s site wrote an article recently tearing apart “smug” mothers who don’t dole out pain medicine to kids. Not only did it try to isolate and shame mothers who did this but it was clearly written that this mother believed her way of dispensing medicine was the only way.
At the very heart of this article however I believe there is a very unsure Mother, who wants to believe her path is the right path, because she wants to do the best for her children. By tearing apart others she is breaking the very motherhood unity that the site was (originally) intended to create.
It is so easy to get lost on this path of motherhood.
I believe we are all one in wanting to do what is best for our children. Full stop.
We have differing methods of parenting because we are all individuals and unique, as are our children and circumstances.
If we don’t like what a site, facebook page, blog is promoting we should unlike it and move on.
That’s not to say I don’t love a good discussion and a differing of opinions – just keep it kind, keep it informed and keep it non-personal.